Wives can and should choose to interact with their husbands in a respectful way. That goes without saying that husbands ought to be doing the same thing: interact with their wives in a respectful manner. When a respectful approach is gone, when there is no more respect, the relationship very quickly deteriorates. In fact it is interesting that marriage counselors see a lack of treating one another with respect as a huge red flag. One of the most obvious signs a relationship is in serious trouble is when respect is gone. On the other hand, when both partners live up to God's expectations of them, it produces some beautiful fruits: love and unity and peace and a wonderful kind of intimacy.